Don't feel bad about having to go with R134A. First off, get the dealer to give you another new compressor. They ****** up if they installed it without oil and it burnt up because there was no oil and they didn't give FAIR warning that you needed to add the oil that they didn't add.
Next up, with all new AC parts a 134A SHO AC system will blow very cold air when the charge is tuned just right. My understanding is, and I certainly hope somebody will correct me if I'm wrong, that Ford didn't bother to switch to a bigger condensor setup for the factory 134A V6 SHOs. It's all the same AC parts on the R12 or R134A factory equipped SHOs. At least Ford felt the existing combination of parts was adequate for the 134A switchover. Plus several folks here have really nice cold air with their 134A systems.
Mine is a DIY retrofit. I STILL have the original R12 mineral oil in my system and it's basically just sitting in the bottom of my condensor taking up valuable space. Plus I probably have an ounce or two more polyol ester oil than optimal in my system. Somewhere along the way I got a slow leak after the conversion I did 4 years ago or so. Probably just some rubber drying out because I stopped running my system frequently when the AC clutch wore out and coil grew flakey. I replaced the clutch and coil and recharged. This time I have at least a low side gauge.

When I did the initial retrofit I had no gauges. Just vacuumed the system myself with a garden hose aspirator for several hours and added the recommended charge (85% of R12 charge worth of R134A + 8.5 oz (.5 ounce too much!!!) ) that the Interdynamics kit recommended. 4 Years ago it worked great keeping my precious German Shepherd Dog cool on the 440 mile trip to San Diego in 100 degree heat. That's good enough for me.
Anyways, with my current fresh charge I'm getting ~49 degree air with AC on MAX and full fan. Not the greatest but it DOES keep the car cool in 90+ degree weather. It's cool enough I don't have a hint of worry transporting my double coat wearing dog to the lake in August weather. That means something to me. The air DOES feel cold.
If I lower the fan to low + 1 then I get 45 degree air....I've had as low as 42 with all but the center vents closed and the fan on less than high. I don't think I have the optimum amount of 134A in there and I have some reduced capacity from the mineral oil weighing down the condensor bottom and some extra R134A oil in there. Brand new parts and clean system should work real nice with the R134A.
Sure the hotshot sounds like it would be even better in theory. And I'm sure when everything is going right and everything agrees then it is. BUT it is obviously not idiot proof. That quality is a VERY important factor. Sadly you've learned the hard way through no real fault of your own. If you choose to fight it to the end with the 414A hotshot then the fault WILL become your own, lol!
Here are some more analogies to give you some perspective on your dilemma: Often in computers there are "simple" more efficient ways to get something done. And often those approaches aren't idiot-proof and will burn the average smuck. I can't recommend to my mom the same method to attack a computer issue that I wouldn't hesitate to take myself. Because my way isn't idiot proof. 9600 bps stand alone fax machine. Idiot proof. 14400 bps fax modem, can offer better performance. But you will get burnt because it's NOT idiot proof. A guru will get burnt when he needs the damn thing to work right now (time crunch) without having to go through the whole ritual that the device demands. So yes, idiot proof is good for the experts even when the day to day performance promised is less. I had another little analogy in mind several minutes ago but I forgot...It's late, I'm tired, and my sleep sleep glass of wine is kicking in. You probably see the point I'm trying to make by now. Idiot proof means you don't have to burden yourself with the details and caveats that would not only be overwhelming to a layman but would often be a complete nuisance to an expert. From what Rob and others have mentioned in this thread it appears that for automotive AC parts R-134A is going to be far more idiot proof that 414A. 414A definately is NOT as idiot proof as R12 used to be, that's for sure.
Good luck.