Firstly, keep in mind they are a business and trying to make money. Paying to have them shipped back and ship you the correct set means they lose. This is they’re main reason. Regardless, I’m shocked a legitimate business would actually tell you that.
The debate on 5x114.3 and 5x115 being interchangeable has been going on for years. With 15+ years in the wheel/tire biz, my answer “no”. However I know vehicles running the alternative bolt pattern with (apparently) no issues.
With that said, I would 100% return those for the correct size. There is NO way I would compromise on this with a NEW set of wheels I purchased. If I was you I’d return the wheels and buy elsewhere.
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