Go to the salvage yard. You can disassemble most OEM connectors with a set of small screwdrivers that are available at Sears, Radio Shack, or AutoZone. They're $3.99 at AutoZone (part number GP6C).
First, you remove the sleeve retainer, which is usually red (most common), white, black, yellow (least common) center piece - and there are a few other colors - that keeps the terminal ends from coming out of the connector. After the sleeve retainer is removed from the connector (ie. "sleeve"), you can remove the terminal end from the connector using that small screwdriver set in about 95-percent of the connectors.
Along one of the four sides of the metal terminal, a small plastic tab inside the sleeve locks and holds the terminal(s) inside the connector. Use one of the three smallest flathead screwdrivers to gently pry-back the tab, and then wiggle the wire and terminal end from the connector. Once you figure out how these come apart, you can change-out most connectors in as little as a few minutes. I can "pick" one apart in less than one-minute to up to nearly an hour for the more complex connectors like the one for the PCM.
I believe the headlamp connectors are black sleeves with a red retainer insert, and the front parking lamp (#3357NA bulb) connectors are blue (internally) with a yellow sleeve insert.
If you can't figure this out, post back and I'll get a connector and step you through picking it apart.
