FWIW, these LCAs could use more grinding, but this about what it takes to just start to get adequate clearance:
I doubt you moved the rotor out 3mm or it'd likely be grinding on the caliper bracket. Are you sure that's not what's grinding?
If it's really a 12.5" Baer kit and the knuckle and caliper brackets haven't been subsequently modified, then the grinding shown above is about what you need to do.
The aluminum hat from TCE works fine this way. If you really think the hat is the problem then call Todd and get the right one. If the rotor isn't grinding on the caliper bracket, though, I don't see how it can be a problem with the hat. But what do I know, right?
One other possibility is that somebody subsequently ordered replacement rotors (rings) and didn't spec the "eye" opening big enough. You can take them off and measure that, it should be 8 7/8" opening or a little better than that.
My bet: Grind the LCAs. That's what everybody's been doing on these kits forever. If the rotor fits in the caliper bracket without grinding, it's located properly as long as the bracket and the knuckle are really correct for the Baer 12.5" kit.
And if you haven't figure it out yet, there's another surprise with this kit: The brake lines may rub on the tires. There are a bunch of fixes for that, too.
Edit: Yes, those are the same pics I posted the last time you asked about this.