well, seems that the part was there after-all, in the bottom of the parts bucket, it got out of the baggy we had for shifter linkage parts :\...at least we tried to be organized :p
does anyone have a diagram of the shifter linkage for a manual transmission...i took the shifter linkage off and when i tried to put it back together there seems to be a bushing or something missing but i cant figure out what it is called to get it from the dealership